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Four Biblical Ways a Christian Wife Can Cope with a Cheating Husband
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I’ve always wondered about this in the sense that what if the woman is not bothered by it at all? Should a man be worried that his wife doesn’t love him or that she isn’t genuine in her wifely mission?
Tessa,
Really I think what you are asking about is “If a woman does not display some jealousy over husband being with other women shouldn’t that make a man think his wife does not love or care about him?
But the question – whether in the way you said it or how I framed it here is based on a faulty worldview. It is based on a world view that says a wife should be possessively jealous of her husband and that his demonstrates her love for him. But Biblically this is not true. A woman acts possessively jealous toward her husband is demonstrating a sinful attitude. She does not possess him as I showed in this podcast, but rather he possesses her.
And her wifely mission is not rebuke her husband. That is what her being bothered in his presence would do – it would be a non-verbal rebuke.
Now in a general sense, should it bother us as Christians when anyone lives in sin? YES. If my son who is married has an affair, it should absolutely bother me, his mother, his brothers and yes his wife. But it is how we handle our disappointment that matters. I as my son’s father have a right to speak into his life man to man and tell him that he is sinning against God by having sex outside of marriage. His brothers have that right as well – to go to him man to man and rebuke him as well. And for that matter, so do the men of his church and his pastor. But the one person who has no right to rebuke his sin is his wife, the Bible is crystal clear on this point in 1 Peter 3:1-2.
I would also add the following. If the roles were reversed, and a man’s wife was having an affair with another man and he said or did nothing toward her that would be wrong on his part. Because he is her spiritual authority and responsible before God to rebuke and discipline her even he chooses not to divorce her.